My husband and I dated for SIX years before we were married. We talked about everything under the sun, especially children: How many? When do you want to start? How do you want to raise them? Do you have a name list? But we never talked about this. Sure, we might have agreed about adoption if we couldn’t have kids, but that topic was quickly dismissed since we both came from extremely large and fertile families. Surely infertility won’t happen to us? Ha! And here we were. I was completely taken off guard.